Kelsey on this season’s episode of The Bachelor has a story that’s “amazing” or so she claims. The manner in which Kelsey speaks of her late husband Sanderson Poe is so very strange and cold. The fact that she even uses his full name “Sanderson Poe” is a bit creepy. But nothing is as eerie as his obituary which clearly had to have been written by her… because it’s nearly all about her and his love for her. Here is his full obituary as originally printed in the Tulsa World on 5/23/13:
Sanderson Patrick Poe, age 42, had great passion for the loves of his life. His wife, Kelsey Lyn Poe and his music. Together Sanderson and Kelsey set their course as one and as one they were.
Kelsey’s goal and Sanderson’s supportive commitment were achieved May 18, 2013 with Kelsey’s graduation with her Master’s Degree from the University of Texas in Austin. Sanderson was a student in Tulsa and Norman, Oklahoma before moving to London, England, where he graduated from the American Community School.
Sanderson completed studies in Jazz Music at the New School for Social Research in New York City and the Royal Conservatory in Brussels, Belgium. Sanderson played the Upright Double Bass and had a very successful music career in Europe before returning to the United States where he met and married Kelsey in 2009.
Sanderson lived his life as a loving partner to Kelsey and to be true to his own free spirit. Sanderson’s music is still being performed in Europe today. A few of Sanderson’s unusual accomplishments include working on a fishing boat in Iceland, exercising horses in Hyde Park London, and being an outstanding Rugby Player in England.
Sanderson was preceded in death by his step-mother, Sharon Lee Poe and his birth mother, Stephanie Parris Thompson. He is survived by: his wife, Kelsey; his grandmother, Pearl Sullens; his father, Patrick Poe; brothers, William Poe, Preston Poe, and Mark Baldwin; sister, Debbie Meador; uncles, Robert Poe and George Purdum.
Service will be at 10 a.m., Friday, May 24 at the Resurrection Memorial Cemetery Chapel , 7500 Britton Road, Oklahoma City.
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So the worst part of it is the noting of HER accomplishment less than a week before he passed away. “Kelsey’s goal and Sanderson’s supportive commitment were achieved May 18, 2013 with Kelsey’s graduation with her Master’s Degree from the University of Texas in Austin. ” Just such an odd statement to have put in HIS obituary. She’s a narcissist to the extreme level. Thoughts?
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and please post your findings, amandatalkstv. For living in a music town, I’ve never heard of his name, and wonder why I can’t find any references of his earlier years. Europeans, where “his music is still played” have the internet too!
Lol I definitely will!
Found deleted scenes of her discussing her panic attack with Britt and her plotting to get a one-on-one date!
Hmm I’m still not ready to jump to the conclusion he’s made up. I’m going with the theory she killed him. She seems to be a sociopath that lacks emotion. I’m going to do some more digging. This post has her audition tape in it and few other tidbits. I’ll keep “researching” though and see what else I can find.
All of her adventures seem to involve her taking off by herself, which tells me that she probably doesn’t have any friends to ever do anything with. That’s another HUGE red flag!
Okay – I found it!!! UT Graduation for Masters Program in 2013 was on 5/23/13. Kelsey’s husband’s obit was dated 5/23/13, and he was supposedly buried in OKLAHOMA on 5/24/13. So he dropped dead and was immediately packaged up, shipped to OK, and put into the ground, with the obituary written (slightly different versions recounted on different sites) just one day later?
Why isn’t there any info about Sanderson’s illustrious music career in Europe anywhere on the internet? Nothing attached to that name except a bogus obituary (no one in a local paper fact check’s obituaries!) and references to Miss Cra Cra. He doesn’t exist, never existed, and Kelsey Cra Cra didn’t do her f*&ing homework before making up a fictitious husband!
He actually died on 5/3/2013 so 5/24 is actually a really long time from death to burial!
According to Kelsey, her husband was walking to work on “the most beautiful day” when he collapsed and died. The obituary is dated 5/23/2013, but if you look at the weather history for that area, there were rain and thunderstorms from 5/19/13 – 5/23/13. Her story just doesn’t add up.
Wow! Great detective work!
She is creepy. She probably poisoned him.
Oooh, Jessica, I like your style! Maybe during those preceding days of bad storms something was going on in that house that made him sick and disoriented so he wandered down the street looking for help before dropping dead. I remember that when asked how he died her eyes went up and to the right, and according to jury analysts (yes – a real and highly paid profession) who analyze body language for signs of lying in potential jurors, when a person is searching for facts in their memory their eyes go up and to the left (searching their left, analytical side of the brain) while those who are making something up reach up and to the right with their eyes (searching the right, creative side of the brain). They look for this to weed out potential jurors who are lying in order to get onto a high profile jury case.
Additionally, I’m curious about another thing. If this guy was a relatively well-known jazz musician with no mention anywhere else of him having a “day job”, I wonder what job he was walking to on a beautiful sunny day. I live in Austin, and most jazz clubs and other music venues host performances at NIGHT, with the exception of Sunday gospel brunches. I may be reaching, as a few other of us with active imaginations are, but her “story” seems to go above and beyond the standard lies that bachelor contestants tell…and her demeanor appears to be much more sinister.
You guys should be detectives! This is good stuff. What I’ve been wondering is why her friends and family haven’t come to her defense. I haven’t seen anyone verify her “amazing story”.
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She reminds me of that guy that was on survivor named Johnny who played the dead grandma card just to get ahead in the game. I bet you this man is still walking and talking while she is pulling the wool over Chris’s eyes. Dump her!!!!! Go have a better than perfect life without her in it.
I have been a registered nurse for over 30 years and a lot of that time worked in cardiology. Congestive heart failure has many symptoms and would not cause someone to just drop dead and not be revivable. There are cardiac events that cause sudden death but not CHF. He would have been very short of breath before he died of CHF. For her to not know the exact cause of his death is very strange. She is a fraud!
Joan, you’re a nurse, not a doctor, so get over yourself. Nobody cares if you’re a nurse. Only a doctor can diagnose, remember?????
First……was an autopsy done on her husband? Because she was so giddy and the way she wrote the obit, makes you wonder if she had a hand in his passing. Maybe arsenic? Secondly, in the obit, she states she graduated from University of Texas but on her IMDB page (which why does she have one???) it says University of South Florida?? This bitch is CRAZY!!
She got her bachelor’s (ha!) from USF, but her master’s from UTA. She’s creepy as hell and about as real as Kim Kardashian’s ass, regardless.
When Kelsey was plotting to tell Chris her “amazing story”, and then said the show was about Christ, but “also about me”, I couldn’t help but think of Jodi Arias. She had a similiar type vibe being all delusional about Chris and how she was going to be his wife. Very creepy, and if I was Chris, I’d be changing my room or sleeping with one eye open. He’s got more than a lot of crazy women this time: Kelsey, Ashley S, Ashley I, and even Megan from Nashville. That one didn’t even realize that Santa Fe was in the U.S.
You’re right on…that whole “this show is about me” and “stay tuned Mondays at 8:00…” was just beyond belief. I know these shows like to cast dummies, drunks, and loony tune types because it’s good for ratings, but sooner of later one of these insane contestants is going to do actual harm to someone – and the lawsuit will be epic!
I found this by searched for “kelsey from the bachelor” and “jodi arias” because I wanted to see if anyone else agreed with me. She is eerily similar to Jodi Arias. Really creepy, obsessive vibe and really self-important and condescending.
Her lack of respect and letting her husband rest in peace just blows my mind away. If Chris has any common sense whatsoever he will run like the wind blows through his corn very fast and strong. She’s using her sad situation to benefit herself. Instead of a cocktail party that they skipped they should’ve turned it into a pity party for her. She deserves no right to be there whatsoever ! The local police department should revisit the husbands cause of death.
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Someone should research his death further. Such an odd display of emotions/non emotions from her. Makes you seriously wonder.
I agree!!!
No way. This girl.. is certifiable. Check out her self-written IMDB bio….!!! Narcissism to the EXTREME..
http://www.imdb.com/name/nm6966924/bio
Oh myyyy!! Thanks for sharing! That’s a piece of work right there!
Love the bio! For someone with such an overinflated sense of self-worth, her list of noteworthy accomplishments by the age of 28 are pathetically meager. When your Top 10 by nearly the age of 30 (and we know she’d only focus on her top accomplishments) still has to reach all the way back to “freshman class president” at age14 in high school, it’s so pathetically obvious that she’s accomplished nothing much in her life. Moved away from home at 18, alone, with only $1,000? Is that supposed to sound like some huge deal? My guess is that her parents gave her a grand and dropped her at the Greyhound bus station with the demand that she stay on that bus and cross as many state lines as possible, and never come back. Now she’s a gun shooting yoga practitioner with 4 inch heels and a 50-year-old librarian haircut…the men in Austin must be falling all over themselves to get a piece of that ass (not a chance!)
And she’s a piss poor liar to boot! She said she met her husband at age 19, and three months later they decided to get married because they were so in love. Hmmm…graduated high school in 2004, met and married her husband at age 19, but bio says she was married from 2009 to 2013. Was she in a fugue state for five years? Because none of those numbers add up. I just watched the show last night and then read a single obituary and brief bio today, and have already found a number of discrepancies in that story she’s so enamored with. This chick is a crazy loon with delusions of grandeur and not even good at keeping track of her make believe story. Was she accepted to the honors psych program in college, or admitted to the psych ward? Hmmmm…
That was awesome! You are so right on so many levels. Yes the obit states they met and married in 2009 so she was definitely older than 19. I think the part that makes everyone doubt any validity to her story is the way in which she speaks. As someone else pointed out, she speaks very slowly and over enunciates every single word as if every single word she’s saying is premeditated. No sane person talks like that. There is nothing authentic about her. No genuine feelings for anything or anyone. Britt might be telling Chris everything he wants to hear but doesn’t actually mean but at least she’s believable.
Awesomeness. You wrote everything I was thinking. She is super creepy and sinister and I cannot wait til she gets the boot. I don’t buy for a minute that she actually had a panic attack that night but just another ploy to get sympathy from Chris and keep her on. Unfortunately, he may be completely oblivious to her tactics because men sometimes aren’t too quick to see through women. Listening to her overpronunciation of every letter made me wanna throw up.
You can see it in his body language that he’s unsure about her. I think he’s avoided time with her. I also think he was planning to send her home and then she told her amazing story and he was like “damn, now what?”
Also, her Facebook page claims she is a “Writer” and an “Advocacy Blogger” but when you go to her supposed website, it is “Under Construction” (much like her story?). No Blog.
She seems to be highly opportunistic and insincere about her “amazing story” of grief and resiliency. Almost as if the whole thing is a grandiose fantasy to plan a sensational book, if only she could have been chosen as Chris’s wife on the Bachelor show….
I suffered a loss of both my parents as a child, and managed to survive life so far, but never in my wildest imagination would I ever go about bragging, especially on national television, about my “amazing story” and being “immeasurably blessed”. She is full of herself.
Her blog was taken down until after the final episode airs. Not sure why, but like everything else it’s suspicious.
Agreed… Anyone who uses such a great loss for personal gain is just messed up. Wonder what Sanderson dad thinks of all this? Both his mom and stepmom are deceased.
You know, after rereading the obit and the mention of her earning her degree, I think she was trying to give him credit for supporting her while she was earning her degree. I think it could have been written better so it didn’t come off so poorly.
I’ve never seen anything so disgusting in my entire life! “Isn’t my story amazing?” What? Who says that about the death of their husband, and uses it to try and get Chris to keep her on the show?
I think Chris is a smart cookie and will see through that sick little stunt. Just by the look on his face you could see that he found the whole thing weird. When he became emotional and had to cancel the party maybe her little drama stunt made him realize that life is short and that he needs to cut about seven of them loose and concentrate on the ones that he really sees himself with in the future…..Btw, does anyone see any real connection with any of these woman? I kind of thought the one his sister’s picked for a one on one date seems like she might be a good match.
Jade – except she is a porn magazine model and that could be a deal breaker for Chris. Or he could enjoy millions of men oogling at his wife.
People can drop dead from heart failure. It happens quite often. It doesn’t matter how healthy you are. She is very creepy there is definetly something else going on with her.
Personally I think the reason she said his full name is if by chance someone recognized his name since he was a talented musician. Just my thoughts, anyway. And maybe the reason she is mentioned in the obit for graduating is because she was giving HIM credit for being the reason? Again, just my thoughts. But I tend to see the positive side of people. That said, after tonight’s antics and just listening to her talk about his death, I’m not so sure any more!
She MUST have meant congenital heart defect. Congestive heart failure doesn’t make any sense.
A spouse wouldn’t be *completely* familiar with her husband’s cause of death? Especially if she loved him so much? It should be burned in her brain.
I said THE SAME THING!! She’s just so incredibly creepy!
bitch killed her husband….just sayin
Greatest comment ever.
She’s a very bizarre woman and thinks way too highly of herself. She’s average looking at best and seems to enunciate every letter when she speaks in hopes that she’ll come off as incredibly intelligent.
When she told Chris about her husband’s death, she seemed almost giddy or excited that she had this awful, tragic story to tell. I was beginning to think she’d made the whole thing up, especially when she said “Sanderson Poe”…all I could think was “That’s got to be a made up name!”.
I thought the same thing! I can’t believe this chick has a degree in anything except manipulation. She has some serious evil going on inside her.
So funny that you used the word “giddy”, because that was the first descriptor that came to my mind. And each time she described his sudden death, she made sure to describe the “beautiful weather that day”…very weird. She’s way too thrilled about being a widow…almost to the point where it makes you wonder if she had something to do with the guy’s demise (did they do an autopsy and screen for obscure poisons?) Everyone needs to check out his obituary online, which she obviously wrote. It actually emphasizes that SHE recently got her masters degree a week before his death…who the hell talks about herself in her husband’s obituary??!!! All I see is a scary sociopath who’s auditioning for a role on a cheesy soap opera. Even when she supposedly “fainted” she managed to land with her legs demurely posed to one side. Please! I see nothing but pure sociopath, and poor Chris is just too dumb to see through any of the phonies, let alone a conniving manipulator like the former “Mrs. Sanderson Poe”.
Finally someone feels the same as me.
I agree, narcissism at its finest… perhaps even sociopathic. She used her “amazing story” to score points rather than actually open herself up. The tears were a nice touch however.
I’m sorry she just isn’t ringing true. I read a comment by an alleged Co-worker of hers who claimed she is also completely narcissistic at work as a GUIDANCE COUNSELOR! An educator, especially a counselor, should be altruistic and student centered.
That kind of behaviot just won’t work in a small town or on a farm. They will eat her alive! She better get out now while she can save some face and at least do the talk show circuit in Austin. To the national TV viewing audience, she is completely transparent.
I don’t think she cares if she could make it in a small town or farm. I don’t think she cares about Chris at all. I’m sure she thinks she’s way too smart for him. She just cares about being on TV with her amazing story and getting on TV as much as possible.
She’s a plain jane version of Courtney from Ben’s season
People don’t die suddenly of congestive heart failure. It’s a disease that progresses slowly.
Thank you for stating this!!! I was screaming this at my TV last night! This girl has some very serious issues!!!!!
what’s worse is that she is a guidance counselor.
The fact that she couldn’t even think of the phrase “congestive heart failure” was really bizarre too. Also surprised a man at 42 who was fairly fit would just drop dead like that of a heart issue. There is definitely something more going on than meets the eye.
I agree! I couldn’t believe how she had trouble getting that out. I’ve taken care of CHF patients for years, and these are sick people. They don’t just suddenly die, Maybe it was editing on the part of ABC. Maybe he had been sick with CHF for years. Who really knows? The whole conversation with her was just crazy.
It does happen. I dated a man who seemed perfectly healthy – he was a vegetarian, a runner, etc. – who dropped dead of a heart attack at 44. There was a family history of heart trouble, but he had never had a problem. He’d just been to the doctor.
Kelsey may be a nutcase, but men that age can have fatal heart attacks.
I’m not in the medical field, but I think the distinction they’re making is the difference between a heart attack and congestive heart failure. My grandmother had CHF and her lungs had filled up with fluid and all that. It’s different process from a heart attack and it is slow. (From my understanding)
People do suddenly die with the cause of death being listed as congestive heart failure. My mom died at 62, in her sleep, after a full normal day that included a full day of work and her usual 4 mile walk. She had completed a full physical with her doctor 4 weeks prior with a clean bill of health. That being said, Kelsey is very strange.
She is awful just horrible I can’t beleive she turned a obituary into a piece about her she is sick in the head and her story she acts like she is happy her husband died so she has a story wtf
FREAK
I have type out some of Kelsey’s comments they are pretty close to word for word. I find her thoughts delusional and did not include the tragic death of her husband as I find it disrespectful.
“Brits date today prevented itself as another threat to my relationship with Chris…. get down to brass tacks, I know what I need to do… it’s big kind of a game changer for Chris or I… I don’t have bad news to share with you I’m not going anywhere… I love my story… I got my first kiss it was perfect… This is what exactly what needed to happen because our relationship was heading in the direction of stagnation because I had to tell my story we had to have our first kiss…Rose ceremony cancelled he made his decision.. I know this is a show about Chris but this is my love story too.. and hell yes I am getting a rose tonight…”
When the ceremony is cancelled and due to her chat with Chris she has a panic attack? Was this display to secure a rose? what are your thoughts?